Looks don't matter to me!
Hahahaha... ok, that was a joke. I mean, a paradoxical header, I guess.
This post might come in for a lot of flack, but when has that ever bothered me!
The answer is a yes for most of you, but the question I'll still ask. Have you ever met someone who you know from the net, through chat?
Most of you have. So have I. A whole lot of people.
FYI, this topic's coming through today not coz I met someone from the net recently, but coz me and a friend of mine were talking about how we just can't stand ugly looking people. Lol. Sounds rude, I know... but it's true. I can't.
He said he coulnd't take ugly people seriously. I kinda agree with that.
Anyway, there have been times when I've met a woman on chat, very very very intriguing, very interesting. I try and make it a point to ask her, "are you good looking?" Cheap, I know, but hell, better than wanting to run away at sight.
Not that I want anything out of it. You know... not that I want to sleep with her, or have a relationship with her or any such thing. I mean, yeah maybe, sure, if it does go that way, why not? But no, that isn't the intention. It's just nice, to see, and be with a nice looking person. It feels good.
A number of people I have heard saying, "Oh looks don't matter, they fade away after a while." Kya ghanta fade away...
Whether they fade or they don't thats besides the friggin point. The point is looks are the first thing that comes to the person's notice. Sure, what she/he says thereafter does make or break it, but the reason you'd, oh screw it, I won't generalise this one, I'd be attracted enough to go to her and talk to her would be coz of the way she looks.
So, "are you good looking?" And the woman would say yes, most of the times. And I'd be, happy. Very few actually say yes to that question. If they said no, I'd think they're being modest. Cool chick.
I'd go ahead and meet them, and I'd EXPECT them to be good looking. I mean come on. Being good looking is like basic. You just HAVE TO BE good looking. There are no two ways about it.
Then there I'd see a woman sitting and sipping beer. This ugly looking creature. Give that to me, I still woulnd't run away. I'd sit with her... have a normal chat. But how do you take that person seriously.
My friend's right. I can't. Whatever she says is like, whatever. Get a life.
How rude, am I not? No I am not. I believe sincerely, the only reason you are ugly is because you are careless. There is no reason for anyone to not look good. Hell, work out, carry yourself well, lose that damn disgusting flab all over your body, get rid of those specs if they don't suit you, wear trendy clothes... do whatever it takes. Don't walk into places and disgust people and then say, "Oh I coulnd't care less about the way I look."
Everyone can look good. You just gotta take care of yourself. At least I for one take it as completely and utter carelessness if I see an ugly person. And my expectations of good looking are like really high. But still, I come down quite a bit to meet someone half way. I'll give it to them. if it ain't their face, its their body, their personality, or their attitude. Something... that people can be proud to hang out with you, not ashamed.
There's a way around it. Get a sexy haircut, go on a piercing spree, grow your hair (whatever suits you), take care of your skin, read fashion magazines to know what's in, what's fashion. Get a tattoo or somein. I don't know. There are lots of ways to show attitude.
You just have to look good. It's a necessity.
So please... start taking the mirror very very seriously. And accept an inalienable truth. If your life sucks, if you don't have a boy friend/girl friend and tell yourself its because you don't want one, if your boy friend/girl friend is as ugly as you and you both are very very happy coz you botht ell each other looks don't matter, I'm happy for you, and if you pretend for all that fat to be muscle and if you think 32 waist is not fat... you need to smell a really strong cup of coffee.
You're single because people don't wanna hang out with you. You disgust them. Your bosses love you at work because they know you don't have a life beyond work, and you'll never get one...
The bottomline may sound really really... oooooo... really rude, but still, hear it: If you ain't good looking, I ain't never ever ever ever ever gonna hang out with you. Ever. Not alone at least. Even if its just for hanging out sake. No hanky panky, I still woulnd't.
It goes for both sexes.
Ciao.
posted by Once the Conman at 3:05 PM
41 Comments:
may u turn ugly soon:)
So much for a well wisher.
some ppl are very comfortable with their ugliness..they dont have to waer 5 shades of lipstick and alll..and some people are deep enough to go beyond mere looks:)
if all that thinking you do hasn't lead you to appricaite people for who they are deepr down,well les said the better..
ps* a person who has ambitions of being a future messiah should work on growing up.
When did I say they were not comfortable. I said I was not comfortable being around them.
I'll grow up when its time for me to grow up... right now... I enjoy being a brat...
And nobody dreams of being a messiah... nor is it an ambition. Sometimes, it just so happens. I don't think it will... it's just a belief that when I talk, people listen.
I couldn't stop laughing at this one!! :B
lotta people talk and lotta people listen that just goes to show u have a charming articulate quality.Doesnt mean anything u say ahs substance or life transforming character(that won;t happen either unless you are a deep enough guy).
taht apart there are hordes of self proclaimed mesiah with huge follwings all over the world..the latest of them being rael,who calims to be the sopkesperson of Et who have sent all the messiahs and enlightened souls.
Its rare that a person who is good with talking has any subsrance too..few examples only of that.
Osho being one..Buddha and jesus..to name a few.
I don't understand this. When have I said I wanna be the messiah. Haven't I, in so many of my posts before, said that I don't give a damn about anything...
And as of now, I don't think I've even tried to change or transform someone's life.
But yes, I have succeeded in converting a lot of normal people into smokers, drinkers, and SHMOKERS... if you know what i mean.
I've shown them the easy side of life... and those buggers love it...
As of now, I'm happy making people happy like that...
Lol.
lol... I was expecting one of those...an opinion is an opinion...
The point is... some find me hot... some find me not so hot... to each his own...
but seriously... i mean... calling me ugly is like plain stupidity...
u gotta be blind...
I wish i was still as thin... seriously... I thought that was my sex appeal...
Now I am like all full n stuff... absolutely disgusting...
LOL,You're really funny, i like that, and oddly I agree with most of what you say ,most think it anyway just not brave enough to say it...one thing though beauty the kind you're talking about is really in the eye of the beholder.The only other thing that surpasses the power of beauty is power itself and if you have that of course people will take you seriously. You're lucky you have the good looks so need to get powerful which is way more difficult than just looking damn good / hot / sexy / whatever..
Well, I don't think i was born hot, even though, the women, who are now married with kids n stuff, in my Delhi locality, who were then school going kids, and I was a naughty kid in shorts running around ringing people's door bells and then locking their doors from outside, would say this kid is gonna grow up to be a hottie... but if I look at my kiddie snaps... I looked like a choot.
The looks later came with the attitude. With starting off trends and even as new fashion seems ridiculous before people start picking it up, I would carry it off well...
U know... being confident about who you are, being sure of what you say... therein lay the sexiness...
hahahahahhaha hahahahhahaha. hahahhahah hahahahahaha...
*stops to take a breather...
hahahahahahahahahaha hahahahaha.
this post is a little too brutal man...
Yup, its rude.. but atleast you are being honest. I think a lot of people feel the same way, but dont have the guts to say so.
And I agree.. everyone can look good, even if they arent beautiful. It just takes a bit of effort.
Personally, I feel more comfortable with people who're uglier than me. Obviously because it's better for my ego. :)
I mean, hullo, who can stand it when that cute guy checks out your friend rather than you?
:-)
good piece.
I think you've confused good looks for good grooming and attitude.
Looks is what you're born with.
Grooming is what you makes you look civilisedm (because not everyone looks good in the "George of the jungle garb")
Attitude is what lets you define your fashion,your persona and your poison.
I think everybody should be well-groomed. But everybody isn't good looking.
Jups: Well, too bad. I got my agenda pretty much cleared out.
Don't hang around with anyone till you really want to; I get your point but honestly, there are loads of people out there who are not exactly good looking(to be very polite) but who are wonderful people all the same---- and those lookers can be creeps. i ain't got a bf coz turned down dozens of them. right now, for this piece, very honestly, all i gotta say is- lol!
Edda! I'd really like to take a moment and explain...no really! I bore your rant...no you bear mine.
I mean, did you run out of journalistic juice that you had to pick on the one 'done to death' ugly versus beautiful tirade?
Here we are in an age, where ugly isn't a concept anymore. Hey i could think i look like a million bucks, i could think that every other guy who isn't looking at me, is missing out on something! But the truth is to each his own, yeah. Just like th 20 + other posts you've got in here, it only screams one thing. You love attention. You thrive on it. Which is why you've got air brushed pictures of your thin self all twice (once up and once down) on this page. You like people to look at you, want them to think you're a hunk. You've probably got some trophy floozies who called you hot in the middle of an organsm - and WHAM - you're beautiful and the rest of us are ugly!
You're so full of yourself conman (yeah, i'm saying your name! Make you feel good? Hot even?) Conmen usually are.
It's not about the concept of ugly, it's how you just make up your mind about things like that - who's to say who's ugly. I could meet up with you at a bar and think you're the next best thing to vomit, and still make you think that you're going to score. yeah, i can. I pride myself in being sympathtic to blokes who think 're they're sooooo hot, that they can write a blog about it.
You see, Rohit, it's not about being ugly. It's about your presonality. One now knows now, that you're not about the person, you're about the shell. So here's a newsflash - the ones who probably tell you that they're not so good looking when they chat with you, is probably thinking - oh Gawd! this is a bollywood chappie trying to get a free jerk off...i'm playhis bluff and say no, and then see what he says...
They then take it from there. Some may find you a total loser for your beliefs. Other's would just want to push the envelope, see what you look like in person and then take it from there.
There is no ugly person. There are people who feel comfortable the way there are, fat, lonely, bespectacled, addiction to fast food, trashy clothes (Madonna made it a movement - and now it's okay? I'm sure you think it's cool, cause hey! Madonna wore it and she's HOT!)
Well buddy, you can't stand ugly people, cause they probably have more soul than you do. The fact that they actually decide to meet you despite the stupid question, is in itself a huge step for woman kind...yeah.
Ugly is a concept everyone has in their heads. We all think we're God's gift to the opposite sex (you should know the feeling!) all the time. That's why we have beauty pageants, fashion magazines (how many do you subscribe to, by the way? Had to ask.), guys like you, the list is endless.
I'm sure it's easy for guys like you, who are above average in height, have a 26 inch waist (oh! Sorry is it 28?) and skin that passes, that you're all set. That every othe women is out there for people like you. And that makes you think, that you're out of this world.
Here's another newsflash. Maybe, just maybe - you're practice.
A step up in the world of finding out Mr. Beautiful. Does it ever occur to you, that people would be sitting, listening to your pompous ass go on about what you've accomplished, and in their heads they're thinking "Ouch - this guy is Ugly, but maybe he might score in foot massage"?
Point is, that yes, you got your wish - 28 posts (All right! Score for you!). But the real point is, that Rohit, wake up and smell the java, that life isn't about being pretty. There's more to it. Like the day you finally settle down (it'll be a very rainy day in Mandalay!) and yeah she may not be very pretty (sorry!) or you could lose a limb, have someone punch nose out of shape. And you know what, if you can get someone to still look at you, and love you just the same. You're beautful man. No matter what they say.
It's in a song. Listen to it. It might give you fresh perspective. My love to your friend, who loves beautiful things. Pass this on to him will, ya?
Cheers
Eliamma
meg
beautiful comment. and rohit is not above average ht. he just about escaped being a hobbit!
OK Meg: I read half of it. Give that to me... but by the time I got to the half, I kinda got what you were trying to say.
Anyway... first things first: I am not above average in height: I don't know why people keep thinking that. I'm 5'7 thats it.
Secondly: I wish I was still 28 waist. Or no actually... 28... na-aa... maybe... if my shoulders were a little not so broad anymore (work outs, you see)
Thirdly: I don't subscribe to any fashion magazines. I don't even subscribe to a newspaper.
Now, I'd like to say what I have said several times before, don't take my blog so seriously. In fact, don't even read it. I say, don't read my blog. Don't come to it. This Qatar Diary is worth TRASH. I am still trying to figure out why you people have so much time to come to read what crap I write and then actually comment on it too.
See, I have lots of time on my hands. And I have this page. I can write what I want, whenever I want. But you got a choice --- DON"T COME HERE. LOL..
Ok, I ain't angry. And you're ID has a lot to do with it - MEG.
But I'll still tell you... don't judge me by my blog. Or do, I don't care.
I write what I think will be read. Get my point?
But yes, to an extent what I wrote IS true. Looks do matter to me... and thats just the person I am.
I ain't saying I won't respect a very intelligent fattie. Sure I will... Good for him i'd say. But I won't hang out with him coz I'll probably end up dissing him coz I'd be pissed off about the way he/she looks.
And I don't think I am any God's gift to the opposite sex... I NEVER thought so.
it's the opposite sex that gave me the idea.
And about the journalistic juice --- I write for a paper and thats as journalistic as I want to get. here I just wanna come and write whatever the hell I feel like... I really don't care if its done to death or not. The point is... when I write, I am read. doesn't matter what I write.
I ain't being arrogant... just showing you the mirror.
Ciao.
And anonymous: if you don't got the guts to come out in the open... please save the smart ass comments...
Basically when I wrote this... I just knew... all those who look like shit, I gonna slam this blog.
It just makes it a lot easier to spot the ones I really wanna talk to...
LOL...
I love pissing people off..
hehehehe...
All I am saying is... do what you think is right... take it seriously or don't. Don't judge me coz of my blog. I could very well be fooling you.
Thats all...
Or jusge me.
basically what I'm trying to say is. I don't care about any one's opinion.
Rohit, if you seriously dont care about opinions, why the hell do you keep replying (coz u want u- forgot tht one)to comments--- even more, why do you justify yourself? yes you write well, you write what the average human reads(and thats where it stops)- so chill; that's what you want. avg people will make different comments. However as about your blog, most articles, do lack depth - hey, but that's just my opinion!- Twilight
Thanks. Now does that change anything at all? It doesn't.
As to why I keep replying... just... coz its my blog... I like pissing people off man... thats it. Coz I know... I just so know... where I stand, NO ONE can even touch me...
It's just.... faith... a belief. So thats it... they give me shit, I give them shit.
And I justify myself to learn more about me. As i write, I get to know me. I don't plan my replies or what I am gonna write. I just write.
And what the fuck's twilight. You mean the you the author of the blog twilight transience?
Gadarene: re-read ur comment. Good observation, I must say. But then again. When I said, "don't come to my blog" its what i felt then... so I said it. I hope I get a court notice for it tomorrow.
And when I said, I write what I think will be read, it's what I felt then.
Does it in anyway seem to you that I am answerable to ANYONE for the matter as to why I said what I did.
I don't think so.
You know I don't know what a blog means to people around here.
But for me... a Blog was really away from the workings of a newspaper.
Most people say... blogs should be informative, and all that crap.
I wanted to take it really away from a newspaper, where you have to wait for several days to get quotes even if you know its happening... you just GPOTTA wait for that quote...
Gotta wait for confirmation...and all that jazz... the restrictions.
This was my way of freeing myself.
here... no quotes... no confirmation. If i've heard it... I'll put it. That's information.
I am not saying what I said is right, I am saying what I wrote could be right.
Try and see the difference. That is information too, and I think its better than any breaking news.
If I say Burj Al arab, or whatever the crap that hotel is called has an underground casino, I didn't cross check it. I didn't try to... the confirmation came through with just one email by chance.
But even otherwise I would have posted it... coz someone told me.
I would have probably quoting him.
The information is... someone is saying there is a casino there... could be right, could be wrong... go with an open mind.
I am no newspaper. I am not trying to be one.
Just writing like I have never ever written before... whatever comes to mind... sometimes just a rant... sometimes... just a feeling which would go away two seconds after I've written it... and sometimes some really informative stuff like the Death Of A Princess.
Why do you think none of my dateline Qatar stories... the actual articles I post get absolutely no response out here. The point is... people are more interested in slamming my thoughts than have opinions that differ. So they try and jam on when I have said something which is MY thought rather than what i give them as facts... articles.
I'm telling people what a 25 year old -- ME --- feels like in a place like Qatar --- Up and DOWN.
I'm telling them in July it was really fucking hot here.
I'm telling them taxis are few here, flashy cars all over... great shopping malls...
And I'm telling them what I look like...
I'm telling them... whatever it is I know... or ever knew about me...
Good or bad... I don't know.
But this isn't a newspaper with indepth articles and all that shit.
This is straight news... if you wanna confirm it... pick up the phone... and confirm it.
Thank you.
Oh Meg: Finally read the entire thing... My nose is already out of shape.
LOL... totally crooked.
Anyway... besides the point. Yeah I know there's a chance I might lose a limb someday... maybe my girlfriend turns really fat after marriage ... or whatever u know...
Well... the point is... I am already in love with her. What I'm saying is, I don't think I can FALL in love with a fat woman...
Oh but trust me, god forbid (big time!), if my girlfriend loses everything she has be it her looks or anything, I'd still be with her forever, and you know what... my love won't ever lessen.
Not ever.
All I am saying is... I like good looking people, how hard is that to understand. leave alone the woman I'll be marrying. She'll be on a different level and I shall never compare her with any of you. Any one.
She will not be part of you. She'll be just somein else. And she is actually.
She's just super gorgeous. Not just the way she looks, but whoever she is. Just a super angel. I love her to death.
About me losing a limb. MAybe she'd still wanna be with me, maybe she won't... but if that's what it would take for me to realise that i need to look deeper into a fat and ugly woman before ai tell her to get out of my face then be it.
If it has to happen let it. When it happens, I'll be right there... writing some blog or the other. So You'll know.
Conman (sigh! Geez!)
We all like good looking people. We aren't allergic, you know. It's just that if you choose to be around only good looking people (by your definition), then it pretty much makes things a bit like tunnel vision.
I think it comes from the fact that you'r too caught up with the way you look (saw your pixelated ode to yourself a minute ago). I will give you this, you're good looking. But. That doesn't mean - you're all that (i don't want to risk an ego burst here!).
I could say i've seen better, but then i'd sound like you, and then the novelty would wear off - you see where i'm going with this? - but i have...seen better. ;).
Take a breath, focus beyond you're loud self with the softy inside (latter part of your comment - clearly indicates a squidgy side to your personality!) You feeling, okay? It isn't like you.
So go ahead scream from roof tops, perform what youhave to perform in front of the world. But if you're going to use a free piece of cyberspace to make these things obvious, if you're looking at non-judgemental comments - then think again!
But seriously, yeah, this is your blog, and you're a journalist, and you've got this dedicated fan who calls he/rself Mitr, and you're not too happy being in Qatar (or maybe you are, but don't want to admit that side of you), you're here for the money (again, denial), and that you've got so much time...and...and...
Reading between the lines is good fun. Despite your nice attempts to come across as this revolutionary rebel who clicks pictures of himself as a hobby and has a lot of free time (did i already say that?), i have to say this - chill out.
Since you've insisted in so many of your replies to everyone - i won't take you seriously. ;D. If this is your space to lash out and dance like no one's watching, go right ahead. Request: tag the posts, where you're serious, that way, repertoire could be held on an intellectual and more effective level.
And since you're a journo, i recommend you rejig your approach to topics like this. We all have our unacceptable ways of looking at things. It's fashioning out into a balance that is becoming of a human.
Continue to work out, though. Hair style, slightly shorter - for one it will make you see what you're typing, less stress to your carpels (flicking hair away from face is extremely traumatising!) and plus you'll look smarter (eyes lightint up yet?!)
Gadarene - Salut!
Cheers
ROTFL...
Cut my hair... you nuts or what?
Anyway... thats not even an issue to discuss.
Meg... I'm saying this again, and I won't say it again. So hear clearly.
My blog is not me. It's not how I feel... It is an exxagurated version of my feelings, just so that I can explain the feelings better.
That's about it. Everything's isn't supposed to be taken literally.
To repeat it... I have a couple of times, slept with the ugliest chicks ever... EVER... just coz they wanted it and I didn't want them to feel bad that they had to face rejection. Just for that, I slept with them. I even told them it was the best sex I ever had.
So please for Christ's sake stop taking what I say so literally. I am not allergic to ugly people. I would just rather p[refer they take care of themselves.
AGAIN: my posts are an exxagurated version of my feelings for any issue.
Thank you.
"But seriously, yeah, this is your blog, and you're a journalist, and you've got this dedicated fan who calls he/rself Mitr, and you're not too happy being in Qatar (or maybe you are, but don't want to admit that side of you), you're here for the money (again, denial), and that you've got so much time...and...and...
Reading between the lines is good fun. Despite your nice attempts to come across as this revolutionary rebel who clicks pictures of himself as a hobby and has a lot of free time (did i already say that?), i have to say this - chill out."
Seems like you've really scanned my blog. Anyway, I am very happy in qatar, as of now. As when I am not, I usually post it. It's an up and down life for me here. On the whole, I am after all returning back... and intend to stay here for quite a while...
if girlfriend agrees, maybe even settle down here for a bit, have a nice car... a house in West Bay... maybe a boat or somein.
It's peaceful here.
And stop assuming things about me. That if I am here for the money or not.
I won't work for free now will i? But money's isn't what could have made me stay or leave. Money's secondary.
Why is it so hard to believe that I have lots of it back home? It doesn't matter to me as much as it does to others.
It's just so sad that people think oh they've read your blog they know you so well...
That's why I never read any blogs. Even the ones on the side panel, i NEVER read any blogs.
They're just so boring. I don't understand how you guys read mine.
I went to your blog too. I just coulnd't tolerate it for two seconds... I was like... OH GOD!
Maybe the two blogs i like is Alice's and then Arroclint's. That's it. Coz they're funny.
All the rest of you... I just can't stand.
Please... just stop wasting your time on my blog. Go... do somein better with your time man.
I am a piece of shit... trust me... you don't wanna know me... Just go.
Hi Rohit. Ive glanced thru your blog and this time i thought id reply. more so because im certain nobody read you right. i dont think you actually meant that. you were taken up by what your friend said... you were taken up by the "seeming" honesty of his words and thought you'd spew the same on your blog. only you didnt expect such a negative outpouring. in your quest to speak only the truth, however ugly it sounds, you know you spoke the wrong truth. therein making it a lie. you lied and so your discomfort is proven in the incessant replies to every comment and in the helplessness of statements like "i am a piece of shit"... your're not! come on, theres no need to be so harsh on yourself. you made a mistake by owning an opinion that isnt really yours to begin with... and thats where you were the pinch. thats the tug of integrity. just yield. it really is better on this side.
the verbal abuses that've been hurled are from a people that while judging you, are also dying to scream out this truth to you:
THATS NOT WHO YOU ARE, ROHIT.
in your urgency to "be different" and not tread the beaten path, surely you can see that the truth of seeing beyond seperficiality can be spoken differently?
its like saying
some people choose to see the scars and others choose to see the wisdom.
the question will always be
who are you?
just like you believe everyone has the "potential" to look better than they currently do, this breed of people who have harshly rebuked you, are a breed who believe that similarly, we all have the "potential" to be more than who we are now.
strive. keep striving. fight the "good" fight. and definitely keep the faith...
Cheers,
SO REAL.
Always Remember: Stay close to The One who loves you most.
Lol... seems like everyone out here knows me better than I do. People trying to tell me who i am... lol...
next time try coming out with some form of an identity if you expect me to take you seriously,.
Didnt the whole of this got too lengthy....too complicated...too boring and monotonous....too complex...
All those people should just chill and read your views as you view them...you are simply sharing your mind...
Relax people...conman is not so complicated...
Whoospy Daisies! Looks like you're scanning my comments. Like anon says take it easy. I was only mirroring your fatalistic writing style. I mean where in the world wouldn't someone, write back like you did, to what i said. Which means it ticked you off, however small it may have notched itself on a emotional seismic level. I'm not here to float around with a flag up your ass - don't need to do that really. I read something, didn't like the way it was put, replied - so? Hey we've all got some time to kill, and i'd like to look at my time at your blog as part of my way of looking at things from different perspective. I do respect that you have different point of view - you need to have one, if we all are to haveour very special selves to prance around in. We're all full ourselves, conman! Heee Heee. I feel like this is the fourth instituted meeting of blogger's anonymous! Hi, i'm eliamma, and i'm blogger addicted! I LOVE MYSELF! (say it with me, yo!).
Chill out conman. This was a comment, not a judgement. Like yours was your way of venting, so was mine.
Have good one in Delhi.
Ciao.
It did not tick me off MEG: Ever since I started this blog I have tried to reply to every comment... well almost.
And it isn't because it pissed me off or affected me... in my world... if someone's taking the effort to come to my blog, read it and comment, it's common courtesy to reply back...
And of course, it signifies... the last word shall always be mine... ALWAYS...
Twilight: I knew you were pathetic to look at. I made that out from the first post i read of yours. Lol.
I almost knew you'd get cheezed off at this one.
D: Let them be ya... they'll never know... unless they're destined to.
personally.. i think ur ugly.. wudnt wanna b seen with u neither.. and i think ur the one who aint got a life!
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